Seven Steps To Teaching A Child Critical Communication Skills

Effective communication skills are the fundamental basis of all relationships. Teaching a child critical communication skills will not only assist help her to form helpful social bonds, it will also be one of her greatest success tool when she grows up. Because the world is becoming increasingly  interconnected, those who hope to succeed and thrive must know how to intermingle effectively with others. As a matter of fact, there is hardly a place or situation where communication is not needed; whether in school, work place, or any social gathering.

The following are critical seven steps to teaching a child critical communication skill will ensure relationship successful for any budding modern child.

 1. Encourage your child to speak in front of others: 

 Shyness is probably the biggest obstacle to communication. You can teach your child to overcome shyness by encouraging her to speak in front of others, especially the family members. One of the best methods you can use is to encourage participation during family discussions or meetings. Charity begins at home; therefore, your child must have confidence when interacting with family members before you can expect her to have confidence in front of her friends and strangers.

2. Encourage free-flow expression: 

 Sometimes, well meaning parents correct their children's grammar and pronunciation errors every time they speak. Rather than improve a child's verbal fitness, this impairs it. A child constantly interrupted and/or made to rephrase his words, will often prefer not to talk at all. Allow your child the joy of uninterrupted, uncensored expression. As his confidence grows, you may correct his word usage and pronunciation,  but only with respect and care to preserve your child's enthusiasm for verbal expression.

3. Teach and cultivate the art of reading and writing: 

 The average person knows about 20,000 words out of the possible 470,000 words. Studies show that the more you are fluent in vocabulary, the better communicator you will become. The two habits of reading and writing are compulsory if you want to teach your child critical communication skills.

4. Ensure that your child is an active listener: 

People with poor listening skills are invariably poor communicators. There can never be a good conversation with someone who doesn't listen. As a parent, you need to listen attentively to what your child says, as that is the single most effective means of teaching her good listening skills. Your child should also learn that interrupting others when they speak is not a trait of a good communicator.

5. Play games with your child: 

There are many games that you can play with your child to enhance critical communication skills such as taking turns in talking, telling each other stories, solving riddles, and acting. Have fun developing her real-life communication skills through the world of imaginary play, like dolls, and board games that require communication to win.

6. Ask your child open-ended question that encourage sharing emotions:

This will work well with open-ending caring questions concerning how your child feels, what she is thinking and so on. Encourage them to describe in detail how they feel by serving as a role model and sharing with your child how you feel.  By sharing, real-life skills like empathy, curiosity in others, listening, and compassion are developed.

7. Increase your child's awareness of things, situations and people around: 

One of the significant traits of good communicators is that they are sensitive to what is happening around them, as well as the people around them. Point out to your child things you observe in day to day life, and ask her what she thinks this book character may be feeling or what the nonverbal cues of that person may reveal about him. This 'detective guessing game' creates critical awareness necessary for successful communicators.

  1. It is worth remembering that teaching your child critical communication skills requires patience. Pick one way (like looking at your child when she speaks) to increase your attentiveness the next time your child speaks to you.
  2. Improve your parental leadership role by picking one new thing you will do to model good communication. 
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Kevin said...

wow, these are really helpful. said...

As a parent, it might be useful if they can be able to teach these kind of things for their child in order for them to have some ideas on how to have a good communication skill.

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Ale Rossi said...

Thank you for sharing such a great information on communication skills training. Everyone should have good communication skills to handle client or operate business.
Ale Rossi